Escaping the matrix

Escaping the matrix
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During my time in college, I had a friend with aspirational goals. He had a strong desire to open a hospital in the future. He methodically prepared to obtain a loan while pursuing his MBA and enlisted the help of his brother, a physician, to do it. However, as time went on, our paths split, and we moved in different directions. He just contacted me with the unexpected news that he was getting married. He had originally planned to marry only after starting his own firm, so I couldn't help but be inquisitive. Further investigation revealed that his ideas had considerably changed. He had been successful in getting a nice job at a finance firm, and he appeared satisfied with his new path. He explained that he considered the hospital venture to be a significant risk, while his current job offered stability and satisfaction.

His tale can be related to by many of us, or perhaps we know someone who is comparable to him. The temptation of a safer road, where they might find more comfort and less stress, often tempts those with lofty aspirations and hopes to forgo their dreams. We frequently use the advantages and peace of mind that come with the alternative choice to selectively highlight how these choices are justified. Sometimes we aren't even the ones choosing these decisions; instead, external factors or unforeseen circumstances force us to act on them.

As humans, we have an impulse to choose the most convenient option and select alternatives that could be more popular or accepted by society. Even if you don't particularly enjoy your work, having a career rather than operating a meager tea shop keeps your family proud. Perhaps you don't want to go out drinking, but all your pals do, so you are obligated to go along. In each of these cases, we can see a trend where, despite their minimal impact on our personal development and satisfaction, the opinions and expectations of other people push us in certain directions. Every decision we make throughout the day has an impact on who we become. Think for a moment about how many of your daily endeavors actually advance your personal development.

Our dreams and passions frequently lay dormant in the back of our brains while our lives develop along the paths of least resistance. It takes extra work to follow our true desires; it could even entail overcoming obstacles and forging new paths. Some people are able to rekindle their long-lost interests or passions in this age of technology developments and artificial intelligence. But not everyone thinks they can succeed in such endeavors. We are reluctant to get up and move on because we are so accustomed to sitting in our cosy, borrowed chairs. Many people lack the drive or definite goals that would encourage them to look forward and work harder. Every story is different and has its own minor differences, but not every story has a messiah-like character to offer direction or a Morpheus to rouse us from our sleep.

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The matrix, according to Morpheus in the film "The Matrix," is like a curtain covering our eyes to keep us from seeing the truth and reality. It's possible that what we see as reality is not what we genuinely want. There are many stages to life, and while the factors shift depending on the situation, you remain the one constant. Imagine living your entire life in service to another person, shaping it to suit their needs. You find yourself out of sorts and roaming aimlessly when that individual changes or moves on. Some people decide to stay in the matrix, where everything seems to be in perfect harmony and life is perfect. Although there is nothing inherently wrong with this decision, are you sure that's what you want? Do you want to put in a lot of effort just to wonder, "What did I do with all this time?" later?

Sometimes, unlike in the movie, there is no Morpheus to direct your course. You must adopt the role of your own Morpheus in these situations. Be the one to encourage yourself to progress. Not everyone who seems to be preventing you from moving forward intentionally does so. Some can be motivated by fear and not want to see you fail, while others might really care about your welfare. However, because you are the most important person in your life, arm yourself with the will and bravery to take action. Eventually, your loved ones will support you, or new friends may come along for the adventure.

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