The Art of Giving Up

The Art of Giving Up
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So, picture this: me and my buddy hit up a movie, and oh boy, it was like watching paint dry. An hour into this eternal three-hour snoozefest, I'm like, "Dude, can we bail?" But then the reality check hit us – we'd already dropped cash on tickets, endured half the movie, and trekked to the cinema.

So, instead of making a run for it, we decided to salvage the situation. "Why not grab some snacks and ride this boredom wave?" we thought. Yeah, the movie was basically a lullaby, but guess what? We toughed it out 'til the end.

Now, in the grand scheme of things, it's a pretty standard tale, right? But looking back, we couldn't help but wonder: did we make the smartest call? Nah, we lost two precious hours and the ticket money, all for the sake of completing a cinematic snore fest. Classic case of questionable decisions in the name of entertainment, my friend.

What we did can be technically called as an example of the sunken cost fallacy. It's when we stick to something that's clearly not working just because we've already put so much into it. You know, like staying in a relationship way past its expiration date, hoping things will magically get better.

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There are limits to what you can change in your scenarios
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This kind of thinking isn't just about relationships; it pops up in different parts of our lives. Imagine you're stuck between giving up on something or holding on, hoping it'll turn around. People often say giving up isn't the answer, like those motivational speakers. But in reality, it's not that simple.

When things aren't going well, you're faced with a choice: do you keep pushing harder to make it work, or do you call it quits? There's no one-size-fits-all answer. It depends on the situation. Deciding whether to give it your all or throw in the towel isn't easy. As we go through life, we find ourselves in situations where we need a clear guide to help us decide whether to stick with it or move on.

So, here's the deal – let's figure out some straightforward cases that can guide us when we're trying to decide whether to keep going or call it a day.

1. Trusting Your Instincts

You know that feeling in your stomach when something seems either really good or kinda off? People call it a gut feeling. It's like your inner voice giving you a hint. Usually, it's right because, well, who knows you better than you, right? If you're doing something and your gut is telling you it's not right, it might be smart to take a step back. Trusting your gut can help you feel better about things and might even guide you to a better path. Don't ignore what you feel – your gut feeling can be like your secret helper.

2. Not Making Progress

Life isn't always as exciting as movies or books. Unlike the entertaining movies, we dont have highly paid authors to write our story. Most of our time is spent doing everyday things like washing dishes and laundry. But when you're putting effort into something, like a job or a relationship, and if it's not going anywhere, it's time to think. If you don't see a future or any progress and it's making you feel bad, maybe it's better to change what you're doing. Sometimes, stopping something that's not working is better than keeping at it and feeling tired all the time.

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Keep milestones to measure your progress.

3. No Alternative in Sight

Sticking with something just because there's no better option doesn't mean it's the right thing for you. If you're on a path because you can't see any better choice, it might mean you're not happy with it. Choosing something only because there's no other choice is like being stuck in a tunnel with no way out. It's okay to think about what you really like and find a different path that makes you happy.

4. Holding On to Someone or Something

We often encounter individuals who exhibit certain characteristics, but over the years, we observe a complete transformation. The person is no longer the same as they once were, as people inevitably undergo growth and change due to varied experiences. They acquire new knowledge, learn different things, and unlearn certain aspects from their past.

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Consider a situation where you are drawn to someone because of specific qualities they possess. Eventually, you notice a shift in those qualities, and they adopt a lifestyle or mindset that diverges from what you find acceptable. Despite these changes, you may continue to associate with the person due to the familiarity of who they used to be.

Remaining attached to something for nostalgic reasons or out of passion for a past moment, even if it doesn't align with your current preferences, is not desirable. Whenever thoughts of giving up arise, it's common to reminisce about the initial attraction or factor that prompted your engagement. However, if this is no longer in harmony with your personal growth, it's crucial to contemplate moving on from the situation.

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